Deep in thoughts
Getting to know yourself and your partner better.Somehow or rather, I came to realise that the main problem lies on how we think which in turn make us feel in certain way.
I used to think that as time pass, people do change over time. Perhaps, its a sooner or later thing. To a certain extend, I can't deny the fact that that's true. But, now I feel that it might not apply to all.
Quote an example: The way Guy A used to treat Gal B.
Maybe in times when Guy A is richer and not cash tight, he used to pamper Gal B with everything she wants. Be it anything. Giving her the best of everything. But
when Guy A became poorer than usual, he could no longer afford to do what he
usually do for Gal B.
My point is this... From my point of view, it doesnt mean that Guy A have change as the time pass or no longer love Gal B. I think Guy A still love Gal B, just that for now, all this is no longer within his means. Beyond his limits.
Each and everyone one of us have different personality traits which might be different from that of your partner. Opposite attracts. Due to this, it is crucial for us to understand each other better so as to know why they react in certain ways which differs frm ours.
It's never easy but maybe never impossible as long as you put your heart into it. =)
Besides that, I think that agreeing to what your partner says to certain issues is never enough. For example, I can agree with what you have said. Agreeing that your point of view is valid and reasonable. But I might not have accepted your point of view wholeheartedly which was more important.
Thanks to my stubborn nature, most of times I tend to debate over what you have said. Sometimes, not because I disagree with you or simply don't get your point, but it is just because it takes time for me to absorb and digest what you have been trying to bring across to me.
Hmmm....I guess I am still the same old jess who still have the habits to bottle things up to myself rather than bringing my point across. Maybe it is just hard to find the right moment to say what's in my mind. Or izit that somethings are just better to be left unsaid?
I miss the good old times. The smiles from within.
4:18 PM
